English Dictionary

it's not what you say but how you say it

ことわざ

The tone and delivery of communication is at least as important as what is actually being said.

日本語の意味

言葉そのものの内容よりも、どのような口調や態度で伝えられるかが重要である / 会話の内容だけでなく、伝え方や声のトーンが同様に大切であるという意味

When trying to resolve the argument, remember it's not what you say but how you say it, because a gentle tone can calm things down.

議論を解決しようとする際は、言葉そのものよりも口調や伝え方が少なくとも同じくらい重要であることを忘れないでください。穏やかな話し方は事態を落ち着かせるのに役立ちます。

意味（1）

The tone and delivery of communication is at least as important as what is actually being said.

Say the punch line loud and clear. You can even increase your volume and really emphasize the last word. Sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it.