I'm trying to point out that his 'help' would be seriously damaging to a person who lacks the ability to fix zirself through a sheer act of will.

In this he had been guided, not by the mootings of lawyers, not by the reveries of pamphlets, not by the conversation of coffee-houses, but by the opinions of minds that were fitter to direct than to co-operate with such minds as his.

While East was making his toilet, Tom turned to the table, and made an assault on the bread and bacon, and then poured himself out a glass of beer and began to drink it, but was pulled up half way, and put it down with a face all drawn up into puckers by its sharpness.¶ I thought you wouldn't appreciate the widow's tap, said East, watching him with a grin. Regular whistle-belly vengeance, and no mistake! Here, I don't mind giving you some of my compound, though you don't deserve it.

Using the relatively new term queer and the acronym LGBTQA (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, allies) was itself a challenge to the established leadership of the community.