Like that same mystic music of the spheres, Which no one hears, so loudly though it rings

You’ve got to fake it until you make it. It’s an oldie but a goodie, because it's true. Many people worry about walking into a room full of strangers, but you have to style it out, appear confident. Everyone will fall for it, and suddenly the reality takes over and you are confident.

There were a few dates planted around the house.

In some places priests who appear always in Roman collar are suspected of aspiring to higher offices. It is taken so because usually the bishops appear in this official dress. The wearing of Roman collar can potentially depersonalize someone.